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What does “feminism” mean today? That is the question at the heart of We Should All Be Feminists, a personal, eloquently-argued essay—adapted from her much-viewed Tedx talk of the same name—by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, the award-winning author of Americanah and Half of a Yellow Sun. With humor and levity, here Adichie offers readers a unique definition of feminism for the twenty-first century—one rooted in inclusion and awareness. She shines a light not only on blatant discrimination, but also the more insidious, institutional behaviors that marginalize women around the world, in order to help readers of all walks of life better understand the often masked realities of sexual politics. Throughout, she draws extensively on her own experiences—in the U.S., in her native Nigeria, and abroad—offering an artfully nuanced explanation of why the gender divide is harmful for women and men, alike. Argued in the same observant, witty and clever prose that has made Adichie a bestselling novelist, here is one remarkable author’s exploration of what it means to be a woman today—and an of-the-moment rallying cry for why we should all be feminists.

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@از آن به بعد تصميم گرفتم يك فمنيست آفريقايى شاد باشم كه از مردها بيزار نيست@
از شروع تاريخ تمدن(!) بشرى،زنان به خاطر ضعف قدرت فيزيكى نسبت به مردان، هيچگاه جايگاه اثرگذارى در جامعه نداشتند و براى رسيدن به @برابرى@ قرن ها جنگيدند.جنگ آنها هنوز هم ادامه دارد و شايد امروز جدى تر از هر زمان ديگر است؛كتاب روان و خوشخوانى بود و براى من كه آشنايى زيادى با فمنيسم نداشتم مفيد بود.
@ما انسانيت را در پسر ها سركوب ميكنيم.ما مردسالارى را به روش هاى خيلى كوته فكرانه برايشان معنى ميكنيم...به آنها ياد ميدهيم بر چهره خودشان نقاب بزنند چرا كه مى بايد مردانِ خشن و سفت وسختى باشند@
نويسنده با زبان ساده خيلى از باور هاى غلط و رايج جنسيتى رو كه در طول زندگيش مواجه شده به چالش ميكشه.در نگاه اول به نظرم اومد كه اين باور ها اقتضاى فرهنگ نيجيريه س(كه بعضياشون واقعا خاصّ اون منطقس) اما بعد فهميدم ما تو فرهنگمون ازين باورها كم نداريم(چه بسا خودم ناخودآگاه خيلى ازين باورها رو در خودم قبول داشتم).دركل منو علاقمند كرد تا بيشتر راجبش مطالعه كنم و شايد يه تجديد نظرى تو برخى از عقايدم داشته باشم.
@فمنيست مرد يا زنى است كه ميداند در دنياى امروز ما مسائل جنسيتى وجود دارد،اما معتقد است كه بايد آن را حل كنيم و بهتر عمل كنيم؛همه ى ما بايد براى بهتر شدن شرايط كارى كنيم[email protected]

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— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Half of a Yellow Sun.

We Should All Be Feminists is a personal, eloquently-argued essay – adapted from the much-viewed Tedx talk of the same name – by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.
Which I have, not so coincidentally, watched numerous times— so much so that I have come to learn and preform the speech alongside her.

The modified book version of the talk was a very quick and important read that, like the talk, will stay with me for a long time (especially all the beautifully poignant quotes):

“He told me that people were saying my novel was feminist, and his advice to me – he was shaking his head sadly as he spoke – was that I should never call myself a feminist, since feminists are women who are unhappy because they cannot find husbands.

So I decided to call myself a Happy Feminist.”

“We have evolved. But our ideas of gender have not evolved very much.”

“We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don’t teach boys to care about being likeable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons.”


“It is easy to say, ‘But women can just say no to all this.’ But the reality is more difficult, more complex. We are all social beings. We internalize ideas from our socialization.”

“The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are. Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn’t have the weight of gender expectations.”

“I know a woman who has the same degree and same job as her husband. When they get back from work, she does most of the housework, which is true for many marriages, but what struck me was that whenever he changed the baby’s nappy, she said thank you to him. What if she saw it as something normal and natural, that he should help care for his child?”

“Some people ask, ‘Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like that?’ Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general – but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. It would be a way of denying that the problem of gender targets women. That the problem was not about being human, but specifically about being a female human.”

Also, I found this slam poem* to be really fitting with the subject.

(* I featured it in My Top Ten Slam Poems.)

Overall, I was truly impressed with We Should All Be Feminists and hope to read more from the author.

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Anyone with a heartbeat should read this essay, even aliens.

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A Nigerian acquaintance once asked me if I was worried that men would be intimidated by me.

I was not worried at all - it had not even occurred to me to be worried, because a man who would be intimidated by me is exactly the kind of man I would have no interest in.

this is the second book i have read from my quarterly literary fiction box from pagehabit:

this is very much like Between the World and Me in the sense that they are both short works addressing huge issues (race, gender) and approaching them more or less anecdotally, which is a really refreshing approach. i liked this one more than i liked coates book, which i never even reviewed because i am the worst. (nor have i yet reviewed many of my teeny tiny nonfiction reads from the past year: Consider the Oyster, The Face: Cartography of the Void, The Clothing of Books) but im reviewing this one! even though i dont have much in the way of response/content. i love the way adichie writes - this book is conversational and relaxed, theres good flow between her examples and arguments, and her suggestions about how to adjust the way we think about gender and to address inequality are small and manageable, but its precisely those small, everyday situations where examples set by individuals have an impact on the way the world works, the way we treat other people, the influence on the following generation. be the change you wish to see in the world and all. or, in my own philosophy, try not to be an asshole today. small acts, but big goals:

What is the point of culture? Culture functions ultimately to ensure the preservation and continuity of a people…Culture does not make people. People make culture. If it is true that the full humanity of women is not our culture, then we can and must make it our culture.

a lot of adichies examples are specific to nigeria - ive never heard of a woman being asked to produce her key in a hotel lobby to ensure she was not a prostitute, and waitstaff in america tend to be, if anything, more attentive to women than to men, but many of her observations do have parallels/relevance to gender issues in my land. in any event, shes a hell of a writer and you should probably read this and see what you can do about making the world a little less obnoxious.

cuz we could use that right about now.

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I was raised to be a masculinist!

Where I grew up, women did the housework, took care of children, made sure dinner was served, and cleaned up afterwards. Women worked, but only if it did not interfere with the @[email protected] of their husbands, and they worked for lower salaries, and were reminded of that fact - often. If the @[email protected] required moving, women resigned from their jobs, packed up and left with the family. Women listened to the stories of men, and deferred to their @[email protected], they accepted the myth that men knew about finances while they were just @[email protected] money (quite necessarily, as their husbands couldnt be bothered with the lower chores of grocery shopping and supplying children with clothes, shoes and school materials). Women were likeable, nice-looking, and kind - in public. Under no circumstances did women have political opinions that didnt match their husbands or challenge their @intellectual [email protected] openly. They did not challenge the husbands right to sit and chat over a bottle of wine while they cleaned the kitchen and put the children to bed. They raised their sons to become bosses and their daughters to have a decent education and a day job that could be managed while running a household. Duktig flicka! I dont know how to translate the Swedish phrase, meaning something to the effect that a girl has to be good, hardworking, modest, restrained, likeable, quiet ... anything but a trouble maker or independent intellectual thinker.

Where I grew up, in liberal Northern Europe, in the 1980s and 1990s, it was common to think that @[email protected] is a swearword, something that indicates an angry, ugly, old hag who @didnt get a [email protected], a person who had by definition @[email protected] and vented her frustration at her own failure by making life uncomfortable for @[email protected] people - all out of jealousy. If you read interviews with some of the older members of the Swedish Academy, you will see the kind of male entitlement I refer to. Breaking down the longstanding wall of privilege is painful to them, so they scream. Not Witch Hunt, but: @[email protected]

Where I grew up, it was common for men to be frustrated when they didnt get to talk nonstop. Each @[email protected] by a woman would be silently @[email protected] or challenged.

Where I live now, in the same country, but in a completely different social environment, we try to do what Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie brilliantly suggests: we try to raise our children to be equals. We try to change the language we use when addressing boys and girls, we try to disrupt the tradition of expecting different things from female and male staff, we try to see human beings with individual needs and interests rather than @hard [email protected] and @kind [email protected]

But there is a trend again in the world, and the author of this short essay points it out in the clearest possible way: feminism has again become a negative, something that is thrown in as an insult whenever someone wants to silence a woman who breaks the hidden rule of behaviour, which tells her that her anger is @[email protected], while her male counterpart is @assertive and [email protected]

We must talk about gender again! And we cant let it be watered down to general @human [email protected] or @[email protected], for there is a gender problem which can only be solved if we acknowledge the fact that it exists. The author uses the example of a black man who tells her not to talk about @[email protected], but rather about @[email protected], as poor and underprivileged men suffer as well, and so on and so on. The list of @[email protected] is long. That is true, but it doesnt address the problem. My broken leg is not mended by pointing out that my neighbour has a bump on his forehead. The black man had no difficulties talking about his disadvantage as a coloured man, and didnt see that by his own reasoning regarding feminism, the question of racism must by analogy also be watered down to a general fight for @human [email protected] It is not that easy though - there are problems that relate directly to the notion of white supremacy, and they have to be addressed specifically. And there are problems around gender that have to be honestly treated for what they are.

So I agree with the author that we should all be feminists. We should be the kind of feminist we choose ourselves, and I am quite close to her individual definition of herself as a Happy Feminist Who Doesnt Hate Men And Who Likes To Wear Nice Clothes For Herself. Feminism is about setting the record straight. And to do that, educators and parents need to be aware of the messages we send to the next generation. The adjectives we use DO matter.

This essay is a brilliant discussion starter on the topic!

Read it!


And in case anyone doubts we still have a lopsided society, check out todays article in the Guardian regarding @women having to quit their jobs to fill the gaps in care [email protected] I think it is about time that we sign up Johnson, Farage, Trump, Putin and all those other @[email protected] men to do some care taking. After all, it requires some muscle, and men are physically stronger than women, I have been told?

Postscript 2:

I am thinking of creating a @misogyny of the [email protected] file. Each day, all over the world, we read reports like the following one from Japan, reporting that a school faked test results for decades to make sure more men than women become doctors. The women who would have passed would come in handy in the post Brexit care taking crisis - working for free? But then of course, they would be unwelcome foreigners in UK. Difficult to be racist and misogynist and in need of care.


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Click here to watch a video review of this book on my channel, From Beginning to Bookend.

We Should All Be Feminists tackles the issue of feminism in the twenty-first century, rallies readers to envision a better, more equal world, and then encourages readers to take action to make that vision a reality.

The misunderstanding and negative stigma associated with the word feminist is eloquently explained in just a few short pages. The clear-headed, concise approach taken by the author to make the word and the cause more accessible to all is effective.

But it shows how that word feminist is so heavy with baggage, negative baggage: you hate men, you hate bras, you hate African culture, you think women should always be in charge, you dont wear make-up, you dont shave, youre always angry, you dont have a sense of humor, you dont use deodorant.

Rather than be afraid of the word feminist, readers are encouraged to understand and embrace it.

Much care is given to examining the varied ways in which boys and girls are raised, highlighting the disparate priorities emphasized in their upbringing based solely on their gender.

We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case.

We raise our girls to see each other as competition - not for jobs or accomplishments, which in my opinion can be a good thing, but for the attention of men.

We do a great disservice to the boys in how we raise them. We stifle the humanity of our boys. We define masculinity in a very narrow way. [. . .] But by far the worse thing we do to males - by making them feel they have to be hard - is that we leave them with very fragile egos.

Citing the norms society has come to accept, and the sexual politics that continue to cause imbalance between genders, the author urges readers to transform their way of thinking and lay the foundation for more equality in future by examining and reforming the way boys and girls are raised.

Gender matters everywhere in the world. And I would like today to ask that we should begin to dream about a plan for a different world. A fairer world. A world of happier men and happier women who are truer to themselves. And this is how we must start: we must raise our daughters differently. We must also raise our sons differently.

Personal stories are interwoven throughout, giving a more intimate feel to this essay, which was adapted from a TEDx talk given by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie in 2013.

We Should All Be Feminists is a small book overflowing with big messages.

My deepest gratitude to Quarterly.co for providing a free Literary Box with a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.

Quarterly.cos Literary Box comes with bookish goodies, a feature book, and two additional books selected by the author of the feature novel.


What makes the Literary Box special are the notes written by the author of the feature book. These notes give readers unique insights into the book that only the author would know.


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